I do wonder

"How Are You Supposed to Act As An Ex?

This is kind of a weird topic for me to discuss but just generally reading over Datingish. Their discussions on "ex" issues... such as "I have a creepy stalker ex," "my ex won't talk to me," "my BF's exes hate me" blah blah, the stories are endless, but they all narrow down to this one point that I vaguely wondered about just now.

Basically, how are you supposed to act as an ex?

The majority of the problems deal with "they won't leave me alone" or "they won't leave my current alone." blahblah.. I know a lot of people wonder how their exes are coming along. I'll admit I wonder how they are doing from time to time, after all, they played a part in my life at some point. It's natural, I guess; it's just like the way I will think about friends and for me there's nothing more to it than that...I am in no way justifying people who "stalk" their exes. I think that's for the next paragraph... I mean, I think it's okay to just wonder about it, especially if terms are good on both sides and boundaries are adhered to.

Now, it gets less pretty when these so called boundaries are stepped over or things just aren't right. And that just where the problems fall. I think some people can be a little ...selfish? at times. I dunno, some people can be real bitches: I've heard and seen the stories. I think bad exes are people who are reluctant to face the truth that things can't be the way they were and then ruin it for everyone else.

Lucky I guess as for myself and my exes... I don't have that problem. We hardly have any contact at all these days and I can guarantee that we've all moved on. It's just like the story was picked up, and finished and put back on the shelf. Full stop. Though, I'm positive, we could safely pick it up again look at old stuff and replace it just as it were. I don't think I've spoken to either of my exes for a good 3 months? Don't get me wrong, we're not at all on bad terms. It's just like that for us. We're happy with our life's and we know that we each are getting along just fine. Does that make me a good ex?"